I would have arrived in Croatia (a week ago, to be exact)
instead I'm living in Iowa
waiting for hubby to reunite with Beli and I.
We won't be returning to Croatia (as of now)
We have reached a crossroad
and a decision must be made
what is in the best interest for our family?
The three of us?
Hubby and I have our families oceans apart
Recession is now a personal enemy
We knew the time would come
when we
would be faced with this decision
it's not easy.
but then again, change is never easy.
I will keep you posted.
There was no easy way to write this, I had many different scenarios played in my mind
of how I would explain that we wouldn't be returning to Croatia. I told all my friends in Croatia goodbye before I departed, it was bitter-sweet. I told my parents on Christmas Day, it was their present!
(P.S. I'm blessed that our family is healthy,
.. now if only we could find work)
I will keep you posted.
There was no easy way to write this, I had many different scenarios played in my mind
of how I would explain that we wouldn't be returning to Croatia. I told all my friends in Croatia goodbye before I departed, it was bitter-sweet. I told my parents on Christmas Day, it was their present!
(P.S. I'm blessed that our family is healthy,
.. now if only we could find work)
Thinking of you during this time....do keep us posted.
ReplyDeleteElisa! Oh, my heart stopped! I have been thinking that you have gone back, but then the recent posts seem to be written in the U.S., so now that explains. That is a big life decision. What a surprise for your readers! I hope your family members back in Croatia are not too sad about your absence there. What a nice Christmas gift for your parents, though! I imagine because of the move, your and your family's future is shifting towards a different directions now. I am thinking of you in the transition and I hope your husband can come see you and Beli and all of you will be reunited soon. Good luck with job search. I hope things will go well for you and your beautiful family. I look forward to hearing about your updates.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on Beli's week without wearing a diaper! My second one had accidents two days in a row. Oh well. It happens. At least it was on a marble floor where I can wipe.
ReplyDeleteElisa, so sorry to hear that things are so stressful for you and your family right now. I hope things brighten up soon.
ReplyDeleteAll the very best to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteLife changes not as we plan but as destiny wants it to change. Thank God for the internet so we will be posted as to what you are up to.
ReplyDeleteI am sure your family is jumping from joy!
WOW! You know, I must admit, I wondered about this when you first were speaking of your trip to Iowa without hubby. The economy "IS" tough, isn't it! I'll be sending good thoughts for you to find work soon, and for your family to be reunited and happy...wherever that ends up being. If it's not Croatia, still...think of all the wonderful friends and memories you've made!! Frankly, Beli will thrive and be loved wherever she is! :-)
ReplyDeletesad to hear that you won't be returning to croatia. but, iowa is a wonderful place to raise a family. i hope you are able to find work soon, what kind of work are you looking for?
ReplyDelete@Charlene, thank you, it means alot.
ReplyDelete@Kaho, remember that email I meant to write to you,? it was to ask you about how you cope with your families being so far away. I sort of had to keep quiet until my family found out, they were thrilled, but also saddened for my in-laws. It will all work out. will keep you posted.
ps. Beli went two days with accidents, then each additional day they were less and less frequent, but she hasn't asked for diapers so that's a good sign!
thank you Heidi, things happen for a reason and I'm just trying to be patient and allow change to happen.
ReplyDeleteGabriella, thank you! hey I keep reminding Hubby to send you that olive oil! haven't forgotten, I like to keep my word, so you will get that oil. LOL!
ReplyDeleteJelena, you always say the right words, thank you my friend.
ReplyDeleteWow that news is huge!!! I hope you are so happy with the decision though!
ReplyDeleteDon't worry yourself about the olive oil...I have lots and don't want you to waste any more time even thinking about it. Please make sure that your husband spends whatever time he has in Croatia visiting his family and friends. If he find he has time left to even think about the olive oil, he should instead go out and have one more plate of palacinke ;-) Seriously.
ReplyDeletesad, proud, happy, just a couple of words that come to my ind.
ReplyDeletesad becouse due to circumstances you had to take a tough decision (gonna mis you).
proud to have had the pleasure to get to know you, mainly through internet (gonna mis you).
happy to know the chances to get going are still better in the USA than in HR (gonna mis you).
whatever you do, do it with all your heart !
good luck all three of you (still gonna mis you).
pozdravi za svi, Pim.
(ps. perhaps I am gonna mail you).
I feel like I'm gonna miss you too. Even if we didn't meet. But you were somehow close, in Europe, two countries away from me. I wish you all the luck in the world. Keep us posted...
ReplyDeleteAlina
I'm so sorry to hear that things are tough for you and your family right now - this recession is just awful. I keep hoping that it will do a huge bounce back.. and I'll keep crossing my fingers for you guys too!
ReplyDeleteKeep us all posted! xox
Sometimes the best plan is no plan and letting life happen as you go :] easier said than done, right?!
ReplyDeletetruly wish you the best of luck on your decision. and may you all reunite really soon! life has a funny way to bring us joy sometimes!
ReplyDeleteElisa, my best wishes to you all, whatever you'll decide to do!
ReplyDeleteMichela x
Surprising news! Hope you will all find your luck wherever you are! Sometimes it's really hard to be seperated from the family and you know, mine is only 180 km away...cross my fingers you will all manage to deal with this new situation!
ReplyDeleteAll the best!
Ohh sweetie my heart goes out to you and your little family. I hope that everything will work itself out and I know that you will make the best decisions for your family:) Keep us updated and let me know if you need someone to talk too. Sending greeting and hugs:) Btw: your family had to be soooo very happy about the news that you girls are staying for good:)
ReplyDeleteMuah
i just recently run into your profile and now already got to the point where you are moving away.. I am sorry to hear that, but Croatia at this moment really is a hard place to live in without a job.. I would know as i am one of those.. I hope you get a more relaxed and more easier time at your second home.. And never lose faith that the good things are always around the corner.. so they will come surely.. Just less worrying and more positive thinking.. :)
ReplyDeleteGood luck sweetie. I'm sure things will work out.
ReplyDeleteI have followed your wonderful blog for quite a while & will miss your posts. I know your Croatian friends & family will miss you. I lived in Iowa for 1 1/2 years & liked it there. I hope you can find work soon & that all will go well for all 3 of you.
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to you! Oh dear, I hope it all smooths out soon. You deserve nothing but happiness and love.
ReplyDelete@poetess, ..."Beli will thrive and be loved wherever she is!" I agree, thank you Debbie!
ReplyDelete@Krystal, yes happily accepting our decision.
@ Poetess, .." Beli will thrive and be loved wherever she is!" yes, I agree, thank you Debbie.
ReplyDelete@Krystal, yes happily accepting our decision.
Gabriella, I will pass the message to Hubby.
ReplyDelete@Sarah Katie, Yes, Iowa is a great state. I'm looking for pharmacy jobs.
ReplyDelete@Pim, thank you, I received your email. Looking forward to reading your blog upon your return.
@Alina, I will miss you too. I'm hoping to continue blogging, hopefully you will continue reading?
@Allison, I know you yourself are looking for a job, so I will cross my fingers for the both of us. Will keep you posted!
Kathleen, that's exactly what hubby keeps telling me... I'm embracing it.
ReplyDeleteThais, thank you my dear.. I'm working on being patient.
Michela, it means alot! Gracias.
Whatever decision you make I am sure it will be the absolute best for your family, because you have them in mind first and foremost. Do keep us posted! And good luck! and please continue to blog! Love your adventures!
ReplyDeletexoxo
I'm sorry I didn't get that email... It wasn't easy for me to be far away from my family at the beginning, but I was in the States and I was happy living in the States with my hubby. There are so many things I love about America: the people, shopping, education, entertainment, everything! Those definitely helped me not miss my family so much. I made great friends who were the source of my energy. I think the key to me is to have friends who make you feel like they are your families and keep yourself busy.
ReplyDeleteI loved living in Texas, but after we moved to Washington, D.C., things were easier because it was the third/neutral place for us. For us, being in a third city or a country seems to make things easier in our relationship. I miss my family, but now we have kids, I miss my family for my girls than for myself.
Also there are more Japanese people and Japanese goods, restaurants, etc. available in DC area. Access to your own culture, people and food is one factor that keeps one happy being away from home.
Knowing how close you feel towards your family and it sounded like your husband's family was very tight, it must have been tough for you to see your husband having a close relationship with his own family while you lived too far to do the same for your own family in the U.S.
It's a tough issue for international marriages. :)
I wish you the very best! Please continue with your blog even though you're no longer in Croatia.
P.S. Go Beli!
Of course I will continue reading you! And hope for the best for you three!
ReplyDeleteAlina
@tania, both hubby and I are very close to our family, which makes our decision, that more difficult, but I'm sure it will all work out.
ReplyDelete@Diana , I could give you a hug right now!
@Pamela, thanks for understanding, yes jobs are hard to come by.I'm saddened that you found my blog only to read I'm leaving Croatia. I hope you stick around to reading more. I'm sure I will continue blogging, not sure how I will go about the title, etc.. but I will figure something out.
Stay positive Elisa. Think only of all the good things that being in the U.S. will bring.
ReplyDeleteJuanita
Oh my! That is big news! I hope all works out well for you. Best of luck, my friend.
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